Some traditional methods are more modern than others: Rhythm, withdrawal and the changing meanings of sexual intimacy in Mexican companionate marriage

B:… well, they can also take care of you. J: How is that, that they take care of you? B: That is, I heard about it from a friend. Really nice, we were talking about how to take care of yourself, and she says to me: ʼno, he takes care of me’, and… I said, ‘what do you mean, he takes care of you?' She said, ‘if we have sex, he feels when it is the moment when the sperm are going out, and instead of giving them to me, [he comes] outside… [and] if you do it that way, you are not the only one worrying about it, he is also worrying about it. He needs to be attentive and alert’. And it seems really nice to me, the idea that he would care about it too, and not just me.